Hearing Set
LawyerFriend called this evening to let us know that we've got a date set for the hearing on our petition for a pre-birth order to allow us to put both our names on Peeper's birth certificate from the beginning, with no need for a second-parent adoption.
The hearing will be on Tuesday August 26 - just two weeks from tomorrow!
The judge has agreed to allow Dr E to testify by phone, and I've also asked Dr T to write us another "not-crazy" letter, because our lawyer figures that can't hurt, and might help.
Actually, I suggested that she concentrate on the fact that this has been a joint effort all along, and that we are, emotionally, both Peeper's parents.
I figure if we have that from her, and Dr E to vouch for the fact that we are both biologically (each in our our own way) her parents, then LawyerFriend can convince the judge that we should also both be legally her parents and we'll call it a day!
Is there any chance they'll make YOU do the second parent adoption? Is that a crazy question?
ReplyDeleteNot a crazy question, at all. Actually, Shrike's cousin's partner has to second-parent adopt Baby R, whom she birthed (made from Cousin's egg) because they did it as a surrogacy.
ReplyDelete(I don't know why they did that. They did try to get a pre-birth order like the one we're going for and were denied, but I'm not sure why they didn't leave it as an egg donation, with Partner as the legal parent. Would still require an adoption though, so I guess it's 6 of one, half-dozen of the other.)
Barring a surrogacy agreement, by default the legal parent is the one who births the baby.
So, if we didn't do any other legal stuff before Peeper's born, I would be on the birth certificate and Shrike would not.
The only way to have only Shrike on it would be to have a court order saying she's the parent and I'm not.
I suppose it could be possible that the judge might say that, but since what we're asking for is both of us, I think she would either say "yes" or "no" to that.
LawyerFriend agrees that if she weren't inclined to agree with what we're asking for, she would've just refused to hear it in the first place.
He's quite confident that she will sign the order that we're requesting.
I really hope so. It so logical and simple that one has to worry, though.
ReplyDeleteAnonymamma, I like the way you think. You must be well acquainted with our friend Murphy too.
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