Friday, February 15, 2008

Some/Thing Blue(?)

I had to do some thinking on which way to go with this topic. There were several things that came to mind, any of which I could probably manage to write on. . .

Blue, as in sad?
Blue, as in Democratic Party?
Blue, as in cobalt, which seems to be my favorite color these days?
Blue is for boys?

Ah, there you go.

When discussing this whole baby thing, we've done a lot of talking about whether we'd rather have a boy or a girl?

(Or, possibly, one of each, or two of one or the other.)

I started out really hoping for a girl, but then tried to make myself envision a boy, since IUI tends to skew a bit toward boys.

Sidebar:
This seems to be because with artificial insemination (IUI or ICI), you tend to be inseminating after ovulation, meaning that the faster Y sperm are more likely to get to the eggs. On the other hand, the slower, but longer living X sperm having the advantage if you inseminate (however that's done) before ovulation. Of course, this means that there are tons of lesbian couples having boys. Ironically. With IVF, I'm pretty sure the odds are even (or the same as the old fashioned way, which may or may not actually be 50/50).

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against boys, I just kind of felt like that we'd be better off with a girl because, well, because we are girls, and we know about girl stuff.

Ok, maybe not girlie stuff, but girl stuff. Especially as the kid gets older.

Bras and periods, I can handle. Jock straps and wet dreams, not so much.

But, having forced myself to envision a boy (so as to avoid being disappointed), I've kind of come to expect that, and have kind of come to thing that would be kind of fun.

After all, we're not exactly the girliest girls in town, so maybe we would actually be better with a boy.

And we can always send him to a male friend or relative for the things that we just really don't know about. It's not like we'd be the first women in the world raising a son without a man in the house.

If we have two, though, I think we'd prefer to have one of each, because then we get to have one of each, which is cool.

Also, I think there would be less annoying stupid questions from strangers, about "are you identical" (even if they look nothing a like) and then they're all disappointed that they're not.

(Although, there is also a slightly increased incidence of identical twinning with IVF. Shhh, don't tell Shrike. She thinks identical twins are creepy.)

On the other hand, two boys or two girls would probably have a stronger bond, just by virtue of being the same sex.

Also important to consider is that, contrary to how most people feel, we kind of tend to prefer the boy baby and kid clothes.

We're not really about the pink and lacy (Shrike particularly hates pink clothes) and at least the boy clothes for six-year-olds aren't slutty.

I've told Shrike that, even if we have a girl, there's no reason she can't wear the cute clothes that we like. After all, look how we dress. We shop in the boys' department, why can't she?

Of course, it's all just an interesting thought experiment, and probably good to consider and imagine all the various possibilities, but on the other hand, it doesn't really matter what we want, because you git whatcha git, so don't throw a fit.

Check out the rest of The Other Mother's Some/Thing Meme.

3 comments:

  1. What? You don't plan on having a drawer full of hairbows? How will she ever compete with all of the other little girls to be the cutest one at Sesame Street Live? :D

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  2. Lol, you know, the funny thing is, we probably will.

    But she'll be wearing them with her Osh Kosh B'Gosh denim overalls.

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  3. It would really be unfair for her to compete with mere mortals.

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